Talking to young children about Troy Davis

I reached out the the members of the community as well as a few groups on Facebook about how to talk to my very curious 5 year old daughter about Troy Davis. She was asking questions and I wanted to be as honest with her as I could be without putting too much on her.

My daughter is no stranger to death. In 2009 we lost my oldest sister (36) and my FIL in a span of two months. My daughter, at 3, had a funeral dress!

She understand the finality of death and she knows that some people die because they are very sick, some die in accidents, some because others are mean/angry… etc. So her understanding of death is probably so much clearer than that of others her age.

We have spoken to her about race – as an interracial couple it comes up a lot. And because my remaining sibling is in Florida and I am not on speaking terms with my mother, she is usually around my husband’s white/Italian family. She has had some interesting notions about race and we had to address them. But the complex issue of how Racism played into this case is just too much for her to understand.

Nonetheless, I wanted to explain what was going on.

Here is how the conversation went:

Me: Troy Davis was found guilty of killing a police officer although in the years since his conviction there have been many questions about his guilt. Many people feel that he was convicted despite there being doubt. He was given the death penalty which Mommy feels is wrong because no human being has the right to take another’s life. In much the same way that I don’t believe that it is right for me to hit you to teach you that hitting is wrong, I think killing someone to teach that killing is wrong doesn’t make sense. Many people feel like this and have been fighting for Troy Davis’ life. Unfortunately, our government did not fight for him and his sentence was carried out tonight. I am really sad about this. Do you have any questions?

Her: “I would hate to get dead if I did nothing wrong. Why didn’t they help him?”

Me: “Because sometimes people lose sight of what is right and they allow themselves to be led by fear/anger rather than love and respect.”

Her: “I think love is funer.”

That was it. I am sure she will have some questions as she processes this but I think that this was a good start.

Have you spoken to your young child about topics that are very difficult to explain?

Published by Kristina Brooke

My name is Kristina, mom to The Tornado and wife to Andrew. I am a former English teacher who left the traditional classroom to focus on teaching my daughter. I am a web and graphic designer, social media consultant, constant fan of the underdog, and political junkie. I am a vocal atheist and approach everything I do with a high level of questioning and research. Read more about us.

2 thoughts on “Talking to young children about Troy Davis

  1. That is the irony of it… Young children today are bright and they seem to ask everything. Sometimes, its so hard to explain thing more especially is the topic is sensitive… Yes, I have tried and I am not comfortable explaining complicated things. Maybe in time when they get to understand more maturely..

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